Bonus Dad Duties

FIRST DAY OF DADDY DUTY WITH BOTH MELENATED HEIRS. Babe had a job fair and I had to conquer ( In my head) 2 babies who wanted mommy as soon as they woke up. In reality King was very pleased with daddy time. Mar Mar on the other hand wanted mama and decided sleep was the quickest way to getting momma time. so she went right back in her room and passed out. Me and king watched Spider-Man and dead pool until it was time to get dressed. He picked his outfit out and was ready for the show. Mar wasn’t feeling me lol . She warmed up as she ate her food and then started watching tv with the fellas. after packing snacks it’s time for ko-thi dance practice and tryouts. I’m driving to some bumbling so a and African inspired music in an attempt to bring out the wakandian in mar mar. When i say it worked she out danced her entire class. Her face lit up as she saw both momma and me cheering her on like there was no tomorrow. 

POPPA MELANIN’S HOW TO: Today’s focus word is patience. Coming into an established family and gaining the hearts and minds of both the woman and the kids is a job all in itself. When you factor in years of Eff Boys and unanswered promises and expectations it can be a lot. Remember patience is the word. Patience with our Queens so they can see the difference and the actions behind your words. Patience with the kids to allow them to work through those meltdowns so they can understand that you’re not just a figure but your present and not going anywhere. Even patience with yourself when you may want so much more then they are willing to give . Now I am speaking on patience but not giving examples.

1. Mar Mar is screaming because momma had a meeting to go to....... POPPAS response..... nothing, let her work through those and when she is ready she always comes back
2. King is upset because the car he wants isn’t available( he threw it somewhere lol) POPPAS response..... find a new toy that brings the same excitement , he forgets about the other one once you make the new one the new hotness .
3. Queen is overwhelmed with kids or life in general..... POPPAS response listen first interject in the situations I can actively change and allow her decompress time to unwind and unpack.

Now doing these things won’t just build the bridge for the family it also teaches me more and more about the individuals in the village so I can better serve there needs at all time.

Recap of daddy’s first day alone. I’m DOPE!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Nah seriously to have earned their trust with only showing consistency and love has been a truly eye opening thing. I’m loving the ride but more then that loving all the melanin I’ve been blessed and charged with of molding and loving perfectly.

Signing out, 
POPPA MELANIN

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